Monday, June 24, 2013
When I first started along this path of childlessness, I didn't know who would understand or who I could trust with my fragile feelings. Thankfully, I found an online support group that brought me some close "real-life" friends. As facebook became bigger and more popular, the decision was made to dismantle the original page and create a facebook page. Sadly, it has take some turns that I can't really stomach. Most of us who are childless not by choice have felt the exclusion from "the club" of breeders. We have been shunned by those who have what we only dream of and flaunt what we have tried so hard to get. Unfortunately, several of the members of the "new" group seem to believe it's ok to do the same thing to those of us who ultimately have fulfilled our dream... through adoption, a surrogate, donor bits, fertility treatments, etc. The original page had different "rooms" for all of us, despite our place along the path. It saddens me a great deal that this is no longer the case, and today, I made the decision to leave the group. I have long considered starting my own FB page based upon this blog and inviting those who were on the original webpage and those few followers of this blog, but never thought it would have too many interested. Now, I'm considering it again. As I face a new milestone... a hysterectomy likely later this year... I continue to need support for the loss of the dream of being a parent to a child of my own. But I fear the same type of corruption of a new site. I don't know... I'm open to suggestions!