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Friday, November 11, 2011

Please help my friend Jamie!

Jamie Roman-Bremner (32) has some pretty serious health problems. She just had her 10th surgery about 2 months ago and is unable to work. But that is not the worst of it. On October 26, her long time partner Walt, the father of her four year old son, Colton, and step-dad to her eight year old daughter, Tea’, died suddenly from a heart attack while at work, at the age of 51. He was the sole breadwinner for the family. Now Jamie is struggling to make ends meet. She has no job, no car, and no family to speak of. She is relying solely on the kindness of friends and strangers to get her through her darkest hour. Jamie is the kindest, most caring person you will meet and so was Walt. To give you an idea of the kind of people we’re dealing with, let me share a little story about them: Each Christmas, Walt would go out into the woods in the mountains near where they live to look for a mature tree to take home to decorate for the holidays. Now, I know what you’re thinking: he cut down the tree and took it home, right? Wrong. Walt could not bear the thought of killing the tree. Instead, he would climb all the way up the tree and cut off just the top, knowing that the tree could regenerate itself. That’s the kind of people we are dealing with - people full of love and respect and integrity. Jamie hates to ask anyone for anything, because she knows everyone is struggling right now. So, I'm asking for her, because she desperately needs it, and there is only so much and one person can do. But many people helping just a little can add up to something significant. There are a few kind people who have dug deep and are donating what they can, but Jamie needs to think about more than just this week or this month. She needs to figure out a way to pay the rent, pay for food, and pay for heat and warm clothing for her children. A few of us have spoken to Jamie to try to get an idea of what they need, and a few things they just want! Here is a list of some things…though it is certainly not exhaustive: Clothing and shoes for Colton, age 4. - Size 5/5T, size 12 shoe. He and Tea’ are really wanting to dress like daddy – blue jean shirt, jeans, black cowboy boots. Colton’s starting to outgrow his boots, so new ones would be great. I bet a nice warm coat would be good, too. - Anything dinosaurs… he loves them. - Sheets, blankets or quilts for a twin bed. Clothing and shoes for Tea’, age 8. - Size 8 or 9, size 2 ½ shoe. Walt and Jamie couldn’t afford to buy boots for Tea’, so she doesn’t have any and is feeling a bit left out. I’m sure a coat would be good for her, too. - Tea loves to sew and makes clothes for her dolls… by hand. She’d love a little sewing machine that’s age appropriate. - Sheets, blankets or quilts for a full size bed. Clothing for Jamie, age 32. - Size 4 or so. Thick socks and small B cup bras (maybe a 32B) - Let’s just say coats all around, shall we!?  - Sheets, blankets or quilts for a queen size bed. Household stuff. - Just think about the things you use everyday and don’t even think about: o Soap o Shampoo and conditioner o Laundry detergent o Paper towels o Toilet paper o Dish soap o Paper plates o Vitamins o Toothpaste o Toothbrushes o Cleaning products - FOOD… these are growing kids. We need to keep them fed. And Jamie is still recovering from major surgery, so she needs to eat! She’s lost a lot of weight and has to keep herself healthy to take care of those two beautiful children. o Ensure --- just to be sure Jamie gets enough calories! o Meat o Juice o Pasta o Rice o Vegetables o Fruit o Bread o You get the picture…. - Extras - o The kids’ toys need batteries – AA, C, and D. o A camera would be nice… so she can take pictures of Colton and Tea’ during the holidays. o Gift cards – Kroger, CVS, WalMart (those stores are close to their house in Acworth, GA); VISA gift cards are good too! o Cash… Don’t forget there’s rent, electricity, and gas (for heat) to pay. So that pretty much covers it. If you can think of anything else, knock yourself out. I know that Jamie, Tea’ and Colton would appreciate anything at all… including your thoughts and prayers. A donation site has been created where you can donate $5 or $100 or whatever you’d like. http://apps.facebook.com/fundrazr/activity/1d9f330e59924c408b1fbc5a91b1b593?psid=6bb35661d09a4393b429463c15fa6186 This money is going directly to this family and any small contribution will make a huge difference. Most of us spend money on small luxuries daily, without really thinking too much about it: driving through for fast food, Starbucks,$1.50 for a soda from the vending machine, an extra six pack of beer, or an extra snack. Eliminating just one or two of these things a week would amount to enough to make a difference, so think about it and please dig deep. If you can’t, that’s fine. Send your thoughts and prayers that this family can get through this terrible time. And pass this on to as many people as you can – one of them may be in a position to make some small, or large, difference.

Tuesday, November 8, 2011

just... wow

I am often amazed and frequently rattled by the callous, if well meaning, comments made by our loved ones. Seriously, people!! I recently had a conversation with a sibling who informed me that my husband had not seen a RE, he had not been tested, the doctors could certainly extract something from him, I would be able to conceive, my parents would pay for the costs associated with the process, and if by some chance those things were not possible, I would absolutely be placed with an infant for adoption if I would only contact an attorney... since her friend and her husband got a baby from Russia and the husband even had had a DUI! ARE YOU FLIPPING KIDDING ME!?!? First, I shouldn't have to explain all the blasted details or myself. Second, what happened with your friend and what you believe has nothing to do with my reality. And third, when I tell you to stop you need to bloody STOP! {Insert cursing, screaming rant here!} OK... I gotta stop or that rant is going to shock you! Breaaaaathe!